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Being the father of three daughters and living in a house full of women was not always easy for Edelmiro Abad, whom everyone called Ed. It meant the unavoidable issue of boyfriends.
"If there was a male voice calling for one of the girls, he’d get chest pains," his wife, Lorraine Abad, remembered with a laugh. "The boyfriend issue was big."
For Abad, 54, his daughters were his treasures. Rebecca, 26, Jennifer, 23, and Serena, 19, all still live at home, and the family always took vacations together. The extremely close Brooklyn family also includes Abad’s parents, Ascension and Jacinto Abad, who also live in the house.
"Family was very important to him," his wife said. What first attracted her to him, she said, was "his charming ways, his sense of family."
Abad, who worked on the 90th floor of Tower Two for Fiduciary Trust Co. for 26 years, was senior vice president at the time of the attack. For his daughters, life revolved around dance. And since his life revolved around them, Abad was always a part of the dance circuit scene. He attended countless recitals and competitions over the past 22 years, right up until this fall.
"Even some of our vacations had to do with competitions," his wife said.
Twice, Abad even performed at the recitals. The normally soft-spoken and reserved man sported a white shirt, black pants and slung on a guitar to sing "La Bamba" in his native tongue. It was a big deal for the girls, which is why he did it. "It’s not the thing for him to do," his wife said. "He’s not showy like that."
Born in Spain, Abad came to the United States when he was 7. His wife described him as a simple man with simple pleasures. He loved war- and religious-themed movies, took long walks along Shore Road in Bath Beach and was happiest just to nosh on his parents’ homegrown tomatoes, lovingly grown in the backyard. Abad said he didn’t feel well if he had to go a few days in the summer without the tomatoes, and waited anxiously through the winter months until they grew again. Even while on summer vacations, said his wife, he would take some along in a paper bag.
The Abads traveled to Spain twice with their daughters to visit family. The last trip was a month before the September attack, when they went to Abad’s hometown of Moncayo Dela Sierra in northern Spain. His wife said she feels a sense of comfort knowing he spent time with many of his relatives just before the attack, including some he hadn’t seen in 14 years.
On those trips to Spain, he would take his wife to places he remembered from his childhood - a hilltop to eye a certain vista, even a drinking well where he almost drowned as a child.
"He loved going up to the highest point in the mountains," his wife said. "There he felt at one with the earth."